Busy is not moving.
Unstuck & Unlocked is my free book for the kind of stuck that keeps coming back. Each day has a story from my life, one idea, and one step to take. You will need a notebook and a pen.
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The stuck that keeps coming back
I don’t mean getting stuck once, like a red light on the morning commute. I mean the stuck that has a recurring shape. You change jobs, and three months in you feel the same friction. You end a relationship, find somebody new, and the same old argument starts again.
Being stuck was never truly about your bank account, your partner, or your job. Those are outer symptoms. Being stuck is a tight, defensive closing of the mind against the world. And because our true nature is openness, the closing hurts.
Underneath all that noise, being stuck is simply this: not being in your true self.
Seven days, one step a day
Read one day at a time, and do the step before you go on to the next. If a step takes you more than a day, take the time.
- Day oneWhat Stuck Really IsToday’s step: come out of hiding
- Day twoThe Four Ways We CopeToday’s step: ask who you are
- Day threeBusy Is Not MovingToday’s step: write the story of getting unstuck
- Day fourThe Devil You KnowToday’s step: break it into phases
- Day fiveThe Hidden PayoffToday’s step: face the resistance
- Day sixThe Ditch and the ChoiceToday’s step: take full responsibility
- Day sevenTwo StoriesToday’s step: choose your story
I was succeeding. But I was closed.
I worked sixty to seventy hours a week at my corporate job. I would not have called myself stuck back then. But I was closed, and that is what being stuck really is.
Today I am a spiritual director, a National Board-Certified Health and Wellness Coach, and a certified life coach. I work with clients one-to-one on Zoom. This book grew out of my talk “Unstuck: Choosing Open-hearted Freedom.”
You did not choose everything that happened to you, but staying where you are today is something you are choosing.
Send me the bookThis book is a guide for reflection. It does not replace professional care. If you are in a situation where you are not safe, please reach out for help first.